These sites offer blogs, articles, stories, hope, and a chance to feel like you are not alone.  Take the time to read them as your grief allows.  I have made many new friends throughout this new life that none of us wanted.  It is encouraging to know that my husband and I do not have to walk this path alone, nor are we abnormal in our thoughts, actions and/or feelings.

If you want your blog to be added just message me with a link to your page and I'll get your name on the list.  This is also a great way to reach out and for others who are hurting to reach out to you.  If there is a book that you enjoyed reading, or gleaned useful information from, please pass on the title to me.  **I will not post books here that I have not read, but if you send me the title I'll read the book.  thanks.

Sites to Help With Healing
 Rowan's Hope
October 15th 
March of Dimes 

Blogs by Babyloss Momma's
Baby Loss Directory
It Only Hurts When I Breathe 
My Expected End
Stepping Stones 
Stirrup Queens 
Faces of Loss 
Busted Plumbing
Almost a Mother
Lost Innocents

Books of Note 
The Holy Bible
Truly the only book we need. 

To Full Term
This book changed my life.  I've read it 5-6 times, and I'll probably read it again soon.  It gave me the courage to request testing and just had lots of good information.  There is a section in the back with websites, books, etc., that are also super-helpful.

I Will Carry You
This is Angie Smith's book.  Her story is sweet, and I found the book to have a really good spiritual message.

Answers in a Time of Miscarriage

I Never Held You
Grieving the Child I Never Knew
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination 
About What Was Lost 
Empty Arms 
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart
When the Bough Breaks
Run To You
The Land Between



These few bible verses and poems/quotes make my heartache a little less.  Please feel free to take from this page (for your blog, home, etc.).  Please also feel free to leave words that have brought comfort to you.

"Your absence has gone through me
Like thread through a needle.
Everything I do is stitched with its color."
                         W. S. Merwin - Separation

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."

"My love was sent soaring into the arms of Jesus before the Earth could be graced."

"It is impossible to weary the love of God."  ~Oswald Chambers

"A mother’s love cannot be measured by increments of time… an entire lifetime of love can be squeezed into a few brief miraculous moments when necessary…."

“Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.”  ~Ovid


"I have been driven many times to my knees by the overwhelming conviction that I had no where else to go."  ~Abraham Lincoln 


"A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That's how awful the loss is." ~Ronald Reagan


"Let God fling you out, and do not go until He does.  If you select your own spot,  you will prove an empty pod.  If God sows you, you will bring forth fruit."  ~Oswald Chambers

In the quiet times, and in the loud times, I find peace in these verses. I've written them on note cards, and placed them around where I can see them. When I feel overwhelmed by the heaviness of my grief I return to them, and I feel God close to me.

Isaiah 12:1-3
Songs of Praise
In that day you will say: "I will praise you, O LORD. Although you were angry with me, your anger has turned away and you have comforted me. Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The LORD, the LORD, is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation." With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation.

Psalm 6:3-4
My soul is in anguish. How long, O LORD, how long? Turn, O LORD, and deliver me; save me because of your unfailing love.

Psalm 4:1
Answer me when I call to you, O my righteous God. Give me relief from my distress;
be merciful to me and hear my prayer.

Psalm 5:11-12
But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy. Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may rejoice in you. For surely, O LORD, you bless the righteous; you surround them with your favor as with a shield.

1 Peter 1:6-9
In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, for you are receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls. 

Joel 2:25-26
And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten...And ye shall eat in plenty, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the LORD your God, that hath dealt wondrously with you: and my people shall never be ashamed.

Psalm 119:116-117
Sustain me according to your promise, and I will live; do not let my hopes be dashed. Uphold me, and I will be delivered.

Psalm 126:3-6
The Lord has done great things for us and we are filled with joy...Those who sow in tears will weep with songs of joy.

Job 23:10,16-17
But He knows the way I take; when He has tested me I will come forth as gold...God has made my heart faint, the Almighty has terrified me.  Yet, I am not silenced by the darkness, by the thick darkness that covers my face.

II Corinthians 12:8-9
Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me, but He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in your weakness.'

Psalm 9:9-10
The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.  Those who know Your name will trust in You, for You Lord have never forsaken those who seek You.

Isaiah 49:3
Shout for joy, O Heavens, rejoice O earth; burst into song, O Mountains!  For the Lord comforts His people, and will have compassion on His afflicted ones.

Isaiah 49:15(c)-16
I will not forget you.  See I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.  Your walls are ever before me.

Isaiah 55:12
May you go out in joy and be led forth in peace; may the mountains and the hills burst into song before you.  And may all the trees of the field clap their hands.

Isaiah 54:1
"Shout for joy, O barren one, you who have borne no child; Break forth into joyful shouting and cry aloud, you who have not travailed; For the sons of the desolate one will be more numerous Than the sons of the married woman," says the LORD.

The death of a baby is like a stone cast into the stillness of a quiet pool; the concentric ripples of despair sweep out in all directions, affecting many, many people.
--De Frain, 1991

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