Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Warning: Ranting Pregnant Lady

I have been pondering a lot lately the things that we've done to ensure that Noah makes it here, safe & sound.  I have attended a birthing class & breastfeeding class in the last 4 days...  It was overwhelming to say the least.  First, we were the oldest in each class.  I am 30 and Matt is 29.  I find that odd, but whatever, it doesn't really bother me.  What bothered me the most was the youthful look of most of the extremely pregnant women in the room.  Don't get me wrong, my mom was pregnant with me while she was 16 & while I certainly don't condone teenage (or premarital) sex, I am not a fool & I know it happens. 

That being said, the extreme immaturity of the girls in the class (I won't even begin with the guys - seriously made me ill) shocked me - bad!  I cannot believe that these girls will become mothers in mere weeks.  Just knowing what we have been through to get to this point  - I was livid after each class.  The (dare I say it) unfairness of it all!!!  There are women, mature, amazing women desperate to become mothers & yet for some reason the gift is with held from them & then I go into a room full of these type of girls (I cannot even call them women). 

When asked the question, "what scares you most about the birthing experience?"  My answer - the baby may die, after all this time and all this effort & he still might die - there are so many factors.  Other answers included, 'pooping on the table' (seriously), 'having shots,' 'having a c-section.'  Oh, my.  Sure, having a c-section isn't my ideal, but it doesn't scare me...  And, please stop asking if it's going to hurt - seriously, YES!!  You are about to squeeze a watermelon through a very small orifice - it's going to hurt!  And, if your boyfriend asks one more question about sex or saggy breasts I'm going to be on him like a spider monkey!  Yikes.

Sorry for the rant but sometimes you have to just get these things out. 

6 comments:

Kelly said...

Are the comments that you heard at the class because of their age or simply because these women are taking things for granted and have no clue? I experienced the same types of things in my class but, even though the rest of the was closer in age to me, it was because of the whole women don't get IF/don't get what can happen (if that makes sense). It made me really uncomfortable to sit and listen to those similar comments. there were two other women who went through my RE's office in order to "get" pregnant (although we didn't talk about it), which helped.

Are your classes over? I hope that they are so you don't have to deal with that anymore.

Amanda said...

Both. #1 - I felt so sad for the small lives that were about to be influenced by such immaturity, and I pray that the girls grow into mature women and FAST for those little babes, but mostly #2 - they have NO IDEA that there are women out there who can't get pregnant, have trouble getting pregnant and/or (like me) have buried children. NO CLUE! It sickened and saddened me greatly. And, yes, my classes are over - or at least I'm not going to anymore.

Jen said...

Thanks for ranting, Amanda. It does seem unfair. And as for the old part... ha! I feel you... My last pregnancy was "high risk", not only because of losing Nathan but because of my age. They even sent me to UVA for a special sonogram. If there was a drug I could inject into young pregnant girls that would give them a true sense of the value of the little life they are carrying, I would mass manufacture it... abortion would be a thing of the past and pooping on the table wouldn't even matter. You never know though... God could answer one shallow girl's prayer that she would not poop on the table during birth and she would see it as a way of Him loving her. God reaches people through the silliest things sometimes!

Becky said...

Ugh! I am happy I won't be going to those birthing classes since I already know I am having a scheduled c-section next pregnancy, not that I don't wish I could have a normally delivery.

How naive those girls are, to not have a clue about how bad things can be and have your only concern be "is it going to hurt"-grrrr, if they only knew what real pain felt like. Not that I wish it on anyone of course.

Praying for a healthy delivery for you and Noah...

Lilly's Mom (Desiree) said...

LOL i have a 30 year old friend that is pregnant with twins, and I have heard similar stories about her birthing class experiences. :)

Tracy Purdy said...

I love you and your personality and your spirit! See you tonight!